The mental progression of assistive devices
This is so follow up or maybe part 2 of yesterday’s post. I’ve listen to many people and read many blogs that discuss the need for assistance devices and how they “aren’t ready”. A huge part of the progression of multiple sclerosis chips away at your personal independence. It’s a stage of the disease that affects the ego and the perception of normal or healthy. It’s when we start to look different from everyone else. When we can’t hide the progression anymore or we need something to help us walk, move, function in the day to day life. It’s when we know we need the help but are still too embarrassed to use the device; cane, rollator, walker or wheelchair.
People have an image of themselves. Pretty, handsome, fat, skinny, tall, short, ugly, awkward, etc. we look in the mirror each day trying to justify what is looking back at us. Everyone has flaws they want to change in their appearance that’s how the ego mind works. Fine I’m not here to give the lesson on my reading of A Course in Miracles, but I will say we are all created perfect. However it’s the ego mind that compares us to everyone around us. That’s how we even determine our flaws. That girl is prettier than me, she must be happier. That person is thin she never has to worry about gaining weight…we’ve all done it. Now we add a rollator into the mix and our mind instantly makes us feel worse. We feel uncomfortable that we are being looked and judged. We become embarrassed. However that rollator or walker or wheelchair is what keeps us safe, gives us independence. However until we feel that ease that the device has brought to our life as opposed to the difficulty without it, we fight it. We have to mentally prepare ourselves to use such devices. This happens at each stage as the device changes from a cane to a walker from walker to a wheelchair etc. Each stage, each it’s on mental process. However we all get there eventually and do what ends up being the best thing and get over the embarrassment. I have learned we all through a similar process. However in the end the results are also the same, the device gives us a sense of relief and freedom we were losing. Will we still fight each time? Yes but we will eventually accept too.
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I would talk more about my issues with my condition, but there are certain prying-eyes of people from my past that I don’t want to give the pleasure of hearing about some of my difficulties. I cannot block them from my WordPress Blog, and therefore I am not able to discuss certain things…but, I wish I could. ❤️??
Same here and not only has the sociopath looked his wife has also. In my opinion it’s my blog it’s my space and f@ck anyone. Maybe they’d learn something.
True, Jamie! I did not know you’ve had these experience before, too, with “these kind”… Well, you are not alone ???
It’s helped me be the better person I am today. I’ve forgiven and let the past go.
It was not too long ago that it happened to me, but I forgive him too. But, due to the Cognitive Dissonance, writing about it helps me. They were some major mind games there that really broke my heart. It left me in a total state of confusion. But, I am healed for the most part, and wiser now.
Likewise I won’t ever forget but I forgive
How so true!! I know that when I use my cane, I can imagine all the negative comments by those who see me, even family! Just as a side note, my co-leader of our self-help group had a bad fall some time ago. She was told by the insurance company that they would pay for an electric wheelchair. So she took that opportunity. Now she regrets it very much. She has no ability to stand now.
There is unfortunate. I have them but I’m on my feet with the rollator mostly. I would still think physical therapy can make a difference in that. I see them doing standing work with many I. Wheelchairs. They have gym equipment that helps start to strengthen the muscles.